Loneliness

This story originally appeared in Deadly Vibe Magazine Issue #13 December, 1998

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rp_iStock_000006493749XSmall-150-150.jpgEveryone gets lonely at some point. Sometimes loneliness is the result of being away from friends and family. Sometimes loneliness comes on because you have lost a relationship or loved one, or other circumstances beyond our control.

When we’re lonely we feel unhappy with our relationships around us. Loneliness can also bring on sorrow and cause you to shy away from social contact, support and the people who are important. Being lonely can also lead to other things like depression, alcohol or drug abuse and other chronic ailments.

Loneliness impacts a person’s life in more than one way. Loneliness can cause stress, depression and various addictions like alcoholism, drug abuse, anorexia nervosa and bulimia. Causes of loneliness can be many and varied. It is not a type of person who becomes lonely. People from all walks of life, groups and ages experience loneliness.

When you are lonely, it’s entirely likely that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you. It is only that your social and romantic needs are not being met.

The main cause of loneliness is a lack of knowledge on how to connect with others on a meaningful, fulfilling level. Lack of this knowledge does not mean there is anything wrong with you. Loneliness shows us that we are all human and experience deep feelings. And part of being human is learning new things in order to improve the self.

Coping with loneliness isn’t always an easy task, but it is simple if given the right perspective. One thing certain if you are lonely and do nothing about it, nothing will change. But if you start asking yourself why you are lonely and try to make some changes in your life or even get some assistance from others your loneliness may ease.

If you are getting lonely and depressed and think it is becoming a big problem, call your nearest Aboriginal Medical Service, and ask to speak to a doctor about it.

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